Insecure Writer's Support Group: How Do You Deal With Rejection

Today I decided to crowdsource some ideas. With it now being over a year of hubby job hunting, you can imagine he's racked up the rejections. For writers, it's no big deal. If you can't deal with rejection then you don't get into writing. It's expected to happen. It happens more often than not.

But for a regular job seeker? That's a different story. The hope and goal is to get a job and get it quickly. Rejections happen, but not on the scale of writing. It can be soul crushing and hard to over come. Hubby has been struggling with it the stack he's gotten. I've done my to help him out and talk to him about how I deal with it, but I thought why not pose it to everyone at IWSG. Between us all, I can't imagine how many rejection letters have accumulated!

What is your methods for dealing with lots of rejection? How do you get back up and get on the horse after being hit with a slew of rejections? What pep talks do you give yourself?

I look forward to your answers because you guys have never let me down. Thanks in advanced.

Also, before I head out, my second job is now officially done for the season. It was a blast working in museums. I highly recommend it. I also got a collection of ghost stories out of the job. I had been very worried I'd have no time or energy to write, so having that was an extra bonus.

But since I'm back down to one job, that means I'm not making enough to get the bills covered. You know this drill by now. If you need another book to read, might I suggest mine? I have vampires, aliens, devils, mermaids, and zombies. (And soon, ghosts!)

You can find them here, and if you've already gotten them, please share the link with someone in need of a fun escape from reality.

Today's post was part of the Insecure Writer's Support Group

image of a lighthouse with the text Insecure Writer's Support Group

Created by the ninja captain, Alex J. Cavanaugh, it's a group for writers struggling with writing insecurity (AKA all of us) to gather and discuss their fears or to celebrate writing victories. If you are a struggling writer or need encouragement and friendship, join us. (Someone might have cookies!)

Remember to visit the co-hosts and give them a shout-out for helping. Jennifer Lane, Jenni Enzor, Renee Scattergood, Rebecca Douglass, Lynn Bradshaw, and Melissa Maygrove!


Comments

I have no idea if this will be helpful or not but here goes - sometimes it helps me to switch gears in some way, just for a little while, to focus on something different. Sometimes that different thing turns into a whole new direction or sometimes it helps me reset and return to the original goal/project.

Now, your husband can't stop looking for a job, but maybe he can also turn some of that attention to something else that would make him feel positive, productive? Is he handy around the house? Is there something he was always interested in that he can explore while he continues to job hunt?

Continuing to send good thoughts and prayers your way!
Melissa said…
Job hunting is hard on the soul. I hope your hubby finds something soon.
Not sure if something like Door Dash driver is an option for him, but it's flexible hours that would accommodate interviews and such.
Sorry he is still looking! Maybe time for a career change? As technology and AI develop, some jobs are just vanishing. The two suggestions above for what to do are excellent. Volunteer work is always and option and might even turn into a paid thing.
Anonymous said…
Anonymously Estrher O'Neill, still with no signal. Sorry your husband is still searching, but the volunteer route might be gpositive. I had - still have - mixed feelings about volunteering,, asking myself, if the work 's needed, shouldn't workers be paid? Other volunteers in similar positions, ' real' jobs followed too. Bills had to be paid, I cleaned public conveniences too...
Anonymous said…
There is a book called Rejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection. But not sure it will apply?
H. R. Sinclair said…
It really sucks he is still looking. I'm aware how hard it is to find something--in any field. It's seems like it's even harder these days. 💗