Insecure Writer's Support Group: Proceed With Caution

I am happy to say my November writing break was a success. Now, I can't claim I wrote a ton of words, but the few I did get down, I felt excited about. I felt excited for writing.

That tells me the recharge was needed. Which is funny because I really resisted doing it. I felt bad for wanting to hit pause. That was because a mixture of pressure from myself and outside pressure. Mind you, know one was pestering me to write, but listing to others talk about writing made me feel pressure to keep at it too. It was like a fear of being accused of not actually being a writer because I took a break.

 I feel like that is a big problem online, too. We see others doing the thing we do and seeming to do it well, so when we don't stack up, we start guilting ourselves or impostor syndrome kicks in. We often need a constant reminder to not do that. I guess it's because the thing we might be taking a break from is something we are passionate about. We don't like the idea that, yes, we need breaks from things we love.

Plus, the way the internet works is not good for people. It's a machine and can keep trucking along. We are no machines and need downtown. The internet can't grasp that fact so it punishes us when we take those much needed break.

Going forward, I'm going to try not to resist taking breaks when I need them. Keyword: try. I'll probably forget this lesson again. 😅 But maybe not. Maybe writing this post will cement this lesson better in my brain. We'll see.

I hope everyone had a good holiday season or a calm season. I'm cautious of 2025 given the trend of the last few years. My husband is still job searching and I'm taking all the hours I can at both my jobs. I don't know what to expect in terms of my writing as I won't have as much time or energy. I'll try my best, though, and try to sneak words in here and there. Wish me luck.

Today's post was part of the Insecure Writer's Support Group.

image of a lighthouse with the words Insecure Writer's Support Group

Created by the ninja captain, Alex J. Cavanaugh, it's a group for writers struggling with writing insecurity (AKA all of us) to gather and discuss their fears or to celebrate writing victories. If you are a struggling writer or need encouragement and friendship, join us. (Someone might have cookies!)

Remember to visit the co-hosts and give them a shout-out for helping. Rebecca Douglass, Beth Camp, Liza @ Middle Passages, and Natalie @ Literary Rambles!

Comments

M.J. Fifield said…
I'm terrible at taking breaks whenever I so obviously need them, for exactly the reasons you mention in this post.

Hope 2025 brings you and your family good things!
Breaks are needed for mental, emotional, physical health. And also creative health in terms of filling that well. As for sneaking in words, sometimes those end up being the best ones - overheard snappy dialogue scribbled on a napkin, an intriguing character emerges in just a line or two, a description that is fresh and new. You just never know. :)
The internet is a two-headed beast, one good, one bad. You have to set up boundaries to keep it in check.
Good point that the Internet just keeps going and we can't work that way. We do need breaks.
Keep trying, keep pushing. Sometimes that's all we can do, but here's hoping 2025 is going to be your year!
And yeah, looking at other people's success on the internet is way more demoralizing that inspiring, at least for me. At the end of the year everyone in my (very successful) writer's Facebook group were posting their year in reviews where they made tens or hundreds of thousands of dollars. :-(
Then I go look at videos of people painting and am reminded that I will never have that talent or skill.
Why am I on the internet again?
I always tell myself to stop comparing myself to others because it is the quickest route to unhappiness, but I'm like you. I know not to, but I still do it. Let's hope we can both stay stick to our good sense.